The Distance Between UsA Martial Artist's Philosophy of Connection
You already trained for this. Bring the way you see on the mat home.
A digital philosophical book plus an illustrated field guide with a 21-day protocol, for reading the space between you and the people you love.
If it isn’t right for you, email us within 14 days and we’ll refund your purchase.Tell us what you tried and where it fell short — that’s the only thing we ask. One email, no forms and no hoops.
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Two books. One clear way to start.
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The long philosophical book.
The Distance Between Us — 16 chapters across five parts, ending in ten recognitions. A reflective read on space, pressure, ego, vulnerability, presence, oneness and duality, and what strength is for. ~100–130 pages.
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ILLUSTRATEDThe Five Distances Field Guide.
A separate illustrated companion that turns each distance into a practice: a boundary inventory, a pursuit audit, the pause-before-you-speak, an off-balance audit, and a repair sequence.
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A 21-day plan, so you know what to do next.
Move from reading to practice with a simple three-week start protocol and field-sheet prompts.
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OPTIONAL $12The Five Distances Field Deck.
20 phone-first cue cards — one per distance, plus a "notice" cue, a "do instead" cue, and a "single line to say" cue.
Comments and messages from fighters, coaches and serious students of the fight.
A sample of public comments and follows from the Spiral Combat community. What you get from the framework depends on how you train, so the book is built to give you one clear thing to work on next.
One pause. One question. A change you can feel.
Start with the included pause before you speak practice. Before you answer a hard thing, do what you already do between exchanges: reset.
Five places to look.
Real pages from the book.
Try the practice: The pause before you speak
- Notice you are about to react. That is the load.
- Exhale once, slow. You are not delaying; you are choosing your distance.
- Ask one question before you state your case: "Say more about that."
- Read their answer as information, not attack, then respond.
Made for the reflective martial artist.
For fighters, coaches and serious students who want to bring the discipline, perception and restraint of their training into how they love, lead and stay close to people.
This is a digital reading and practice system. It does not replace a licensed therapist and promises no outcome in a specific relationship.
How do I receive it?
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If it isn’t right for you, email us within 14 days and we’ll refund your purchase.Tell us what you tried and where it fell short — that’s the only thing we ask. One email, no forms and no hoops.